All day yesterday, I contemplated different women who inspire me. Now, with being a young woman in today's society where many women my age are obsessed with TV shows, movies, and the no-talent-megabillion-celebrities (how do those people get famous?!) you may wonder, to whom do we look up to? Miley? Now, while she is by her definition, successful, I see her as a total mess. Not because she walks around in next to nothing, not even because of the weird tongue thing or licking construction tools, but because she seems quite lost on who she is, thereby allowing others to inject what qualities they wish her to portray for sales sake. Unfortunately for us, her music continues to get catchier and now women across the globe are shaking their asses to "Blurred Lines" and not realizing the song is about date rape. At least Sublime was up front about it. (amirite?)
Moving on, there aren't many famous people that I would ever want to aspire to be in our day and age. The Janis days are sadly long gone and instead of showing women you can do whatever and be whatever, we're shown that you should probably be a size zero with a nice tan and show a little bit more cleavage than the gal next to you, and if she's better looking...automatic bitch.
While we all fall into traps of insecurity, I feel that women, more than ever, need to pull ourselves together and well...get over it. Yeah, I said it, move on! I know I am never going to be a size zero. I am never going to be tall or have legs that go on for days, but what I do know is that I am one of the most sincere, honest, caring, persevering, witty, hard-working, and talented women I know. These things, I have strived for. These are qualities I want people to see in me. I am comfortable in my skin. I love my little stocky soccer legs and my beef-cake climber arms. I love that I'm not afraid to take risks. And when it comes down to it, those things mean more to me than being on a red carpet. And that's when it dawned on me...my role models, for the most part, are the women in my life.
My grandmother, taught me so many things about being a good person that I could probably write about her for weeks and still never tire of talking about her. She was always my safe place to land. Since I was a small child she's always taken the time to listen, to extend a smile, a lap that was always ready for me to climb into, a bed that was always big enough for me to share, and shoulders that waited for me to just pour my troubles onto. She never judged. She never argued. She listens. She gives amazing advice. They always say with age comes wisdom, but this woman survived so many trials and setbacks that she was wise beyond her years, I'm sure, before I ever even came along. She's the best friend a girl could ask for...and she likes hip hop even if she hates my tattoos.
My mother. What can I say about this woman? She taught me to have a backbone. She taught me how to laugh. (and not take everything so bloody seriously!...something she is still trying, daily, to get me on board with.) She made me the kick ass take names later fighting beauty queen that I am today. We would be lost without one another, and that's no understatement. She is, by far, the toughest and most sensitive woman you will EVER encounter and I pray you never try and mess with anyone in her family. She's beyond fierce when it comes to her babies. (and now that I'm an Auntie, she's become the most kickass Nana the world will ever see.) My mother taught me that family always comes first, and to me, what better quality could you ever pass on to a child? I am forever indebted to her hilarious, stained-patience, tickle war, baby-talking parenting. We grew up together, taking each blow at a time, putting the pieces back together, and developing the next plan of attack...twenty-four years later, we're an unstoppable force of blonde bombshells. And Mom, since I know you read everything I write...holla bish, I love you and thank you for always being my number one fan.
My sister. Oh lordy, lordy, lordy. Let's talk fighters here for a second. From the second she walked into my life, she was always everything I needed. A reality check. A laugh. An ear to vent. A hey...your phone's in your hand, you didn't lose it. And now, she's a spectacular mother to the most amazing little girl ever. She makes me so proud that sometimes it renders me utterly speechless. She's worked her ass off to get where she is today and she is truly, undoubtedly, inspiring to me. (she's actually the reason I have this blog!) I love her more than she will ever know and someday I hope to be half the mother she is.
My step-mother. A lady who has taught me how to forgive, be patient, and overcome even the most impossible seeming obstacles. (while working more than full-time and raising two amazing little ones she's lost almost a hundred pounds. Truly stunning.) She guided my imagination and creativity. And lastly, but not least, she's shown me that everyone deserves a second chance because, you may never know what a person can offer if you only look at their mistakes.
Now while there are many other women in my life who influence and inspire me on a daily basis (i.e. Emmalee, Megan, Jackie, Christina, Mariko, Hannah, Ally-son, Corrie, Annette, Shawn, Courtney, Julie, Kyla, Bree, Rho, and so on and so forth) if I sat here and listed all these incredible women that I am honored and humbled to have in my life, we would be here for years. I can honestly say that these women have all overcome personal demons that every day people would never guess at because they have all moved past them with such strength. It's truly amazing when you can reach out to others with your heart and they respond in kind. But I just wanted to thank all the wonderful women of the world that have integrity, grit, and dedication. You're all too wonderful.
But while I'm at it, I'm gonna go ahead and do a little rant since I've read some pretty insane hatred today towards the one celebrity that I can get behind. Stefani Germanotta. Many know her as Lady Gaga, but to me, she is simply hope. So what if you don't like her music? So what if her album sales aren't as high? That woman just had a hip replacement surgery and is dancing better than Miley could ever hope for. She writes her own music, she produces her own music...therefore, she writes whatever SHE wants to and wears whatever SHE wants to. For me, it's a breath of fresh air in the music industry that's overwhelmingly full of instruments with artificial talent. (I'm talking about the artists, not their mixers and writers and producers and sound guys...etc.) So before you guys all start raving about how she's a has been because of one album she wrote in a week...make sure you have more talent in your body than she has in her fingernails. That's all.